How To Approach Women

Learning how to approach women is the 1st skill you need to learn to get good with women. The approach is the 1st interaction you will have with a woman and sets the stage for everything else in the relationship. Before the attraction, before the conversation, and naturally, before you get a woman in bed comes this crucial moment.

Everything from surveys in COSMO to scientific studies have confirmed that in most cases, women will decide if they want to date you or  sleep with you within the first 5 minutes of meeting you. Thus, the importance of leaning how to approach women correctly is so important that you must make it a priority to learn the basics of doing it correctly.
But here’s the great part: Once you learn the basics of approaching women, it can be EASY and FUN! Once you get out of your head and learn the basics, you will not only be MUCH MORE successful with women, but you will ENJOY meeting and approaching them.
Luckily, we’ve compiled a list of field-tested tips on the do’s and dont’s of approaching women. First, we’ll tell you exactly what NOT to do(you’re likely to mess it up if you do ANY of these) and then we’ll tell you exactly WHAT TO DO (you’ll likely attract her and get a number or a meetup if you follow these tips).

How To Approach Women | What NOT to do

Here is what you shouldn’t do, and where so many guys ruin their chances right off the bat:
*Don’t use cheesy pick-up lines- They don’t work. At all. Pick up lines subcommunicate to a woman that you are not confident, cool, or interesting enough to be yourself and just approach her with ease. Don’t waste your time. There are MUCH BETTER alternatives listed below in the “What To Do” section, check out The Tao of Badass, which shows you step-by-step what to say in what situation to get real results with women.
*Don’t psych yourself out- I know, approaching a woman can be nerve-wracking; a thousand thoughts can be running through your head at once: “What if she says no?”, “What if she laughs in my face?”, “What if she has a boyfriend?”. SO EFF-ing WHAT. The fact of the matter is that you will never know anything about her unless you actually approach her. Odds are, none of the negative thoughts running through your head are even close to being true. Don’t talk yourself out of  meeting great women because of these base-less assumptions.

How To Approach Women | What TO DO

*Assume The Win- When you are about to approach a woman, ASSUME that she wants to meet you. ASSUME that she will think you are attractive, cool, and interesting. ASSUME that you will be making HER day by going up and introducing yourself.  Get in the “Winner’s headspace” when you’re learning how to approach women and you will find out that it’s NOT only easy to go up and talk to women, but further still, it can be a lot of FUN.
*Relax. Breathe. Smile. – Think about WHY you want to learn how to approach women; most likely its that you want more women in your life, right? And more women in your life would equal more pleasure, more fun, more love, more sex, and in general, more of all the best in life.  You’re taking action towards the enjoyment and improvement of your life, so ENJOY the process! Not only that, but women DO notice and LOVE when a guy is relaxed, poised, and smiling. Be that sexy guy who enjoys meeting new girls. Relax, breathe, and smile; women will notice.
*Say something. Really, just say anything. - The truth is that most guys fail to approach women in the first place simply because they think they need a great “line” or they need to be perfect when talking to a girl for the first time. For that reason, a lot of guys psych themselves out and either don’t approach at all or become too nervous when they actually do approach and end up coming off as awkward or weird.